After a loss

Looking after yourself while you handle it all

The paperwork matters. So do you.

Current as of October 2026. Laws and figures can change — see full disclaimer.

Handling someone's affairs after they die often falls on one person, at the same time they're grieving. Many people who've done it say they wish someone had told them to slow down and ask for help.

Things people often find helpful

• Keeping a single notebook or document for every call, account and reference number
• Doing one or two tasks a day rather than trying to finish everything at once
• Saying yes when people offer help, and giving them a specific task, like returning calls, picking up mail or making meals
• Taking breaks from paperwork entirely, especially on hard days like birthdays and holidays

Grief is not a schedule

There's no right way or right timeline to grieve. Some people feel numb for weeks, some are fine and then aren't. Many find it helps to talk with others who've been through it.

Where people find support

• Hospice organizations, many of which offer free bereavement support to families, even if the person wasn't in hospice care
• Grief support groups through hospitals, places of worship or community centers
• Employee assistance programs (EAPs) through work, which often include free counseling sessions
• A doctor or therapist, especially if grief is affecting sleep, eating or daily life

If you're struggling or having thoughts of harming yourself, you can call or text 988, the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, any time.